Sunday, 9 March 2014
Birds of a Feather, Flock Together
In your experience, do birds of a feather really flock together?
I ask, as I know in real life absolutely nobody who likes the vintage 'thing' other than the people I used to go to WWII events with and they don't exactly dress that way outside of events.
I do get a lot of compliments from strangers in passing and have many approaching me to remark on how I'm dressed, but despite their friendliness, they never turn into friends of mine and even people I have seen on a regular basis, like when I helped out at the village nursery, they have never seen me as anything more than 'the lady who helps out', I was never included in social things outside of the environment we found ourselves in.
I have also had someone remark as they eyed me up and down, 'You dress in an old fashioned way don't you'. It was a statement, clear and simple. She was nice enough, chatted to me of her own accord but she obviously saw me as very different from her. For the record she was one of the middle class mums I see in Waitrose who are shopping for organic milk, salmon and goji berries.
I don't have any friends in the town I live in. Not one. Andy thinks it's because of how I dress, that people are more inclined to flock with birds who share the same plumage, as they have more in common with one another. I was not so long ago described as 'a bit exotic for (insert name of town in which I live here) ...' and maybe that's the problem. I feel like a flamingo that just landed on the lake near the town and all of the other birds are side eying me.
What are your experiences?
Does your 'plumage' scare people off?
Or do people not care about how you present yourself and are they your friend regardless?